I usually reserve posts like this for the end of the year, but we’re currently half way through 2019, there are officially 5 paydays left until Christmas, and I am feeling somewhat reflective on what has been a challenging but nonetheless incredible year so far so I thought I’d discuss life lessons in 2019: what I have learned and how it has helped to change me.
I’ve made a lot of changes in 2019 both in the way I live and work, but also in myself. I’ve spoken about these changes a few times now on this blog and I won’t bore you with the details (if you’re curious you can read this post here) but they have so far culminated in me feeling the happiest and most content in myself that I have ever felt. There are of course still things that need to be worked on and things that I would like to change about my life, but for the most part I am really and truly happy for the first time in my adult life and I am very grateful to be feeling that way.
So without further ado, here are some of the biggest lessons this year has taught me so far, and how they are helping me on my journey to becoming a better and nicer person. Let me know if you’ve ever been on a similar character building journey, I’d be really curious to know what you learned about yourself too 🙂
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
This is one that one of my best friends in the world has taught me in recent months and I’m trying to live my life by this rule more and more each day. She learned this during her time in Argentina at the start of the year and it really resonated with her. The principle is to live your life in the way that feels authentic and true to yourself without worrying about how you will be perceived by others. Now obviously this has it’s limits – don’t go being unnecessarily cruel to someone or do something illegal just because it’s something you want to do! But essentially live a life you will be proud of when you look back in a few years time rather than sacrificing yourself or your morals to fit in with someone else. If you want to double text that guy because it feels right, double text! If you want to change career or go on a crazy trip somewhere then you do that! If you’re holding back on telling someone how you feel because you’re scared of how they’ll perceive you, be honest and true to yourself. That way you can have no regrets because at all times you’re doing what feels right and honest for yourself.
INVEST IN YOURSELF
Now I’m not talking about going on crazy shopping trips or buying material goods here (although that is also fun in moderation) but invest in yourself. Invest in your body and your mental health, invest in becoming the happiest and healthiest version of you that you can be because I can promise you that it will never be money wasted! I’m paying out more per month on things other than rent than ever before at the minute, but a huge portion of this is going towards my ongoing counselling appointments, my gym membership and my reformer pilates lessons. I know this is a luxury that I am lucky to be able to afford, and that not everyone will be in the position to do the same, but if you spend even £10 a month or less on a self-help book to assist you with the relationship you have with yourself, or £20 a month on a PureGym membership to help you feel your strongest and healthiest you will not regret it. I feel the most comfortable in my own skin than I have ever felt before through a mixture of strength exercises in pilates, challenging myself at the gym, and talking to my counsellor about the issues and problems I’ve been carrying with me over the years.
LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY
Ok ladies (and gents!) it’s time to talk sex. I’ve never actually spoken about sex on the internet before so I feel a little nervous typing this which is ridiculous haha! One of the most important lessons I’ve learned this year is the need to learn and understand my body and what makes it tick. I have had some incredible sex over the years and I have had some truly terrible sex too, and I’m now using this time I have while being single to really learn about my body so that when I have a partner again in the future we can learn and explore it together in a healthy and fulfilling way for both of us. I don’t ever want to be in a position again whereby I’m having terrible sex on a regular basis but don’t know enough about my body to tell my partner how to please me. I am a very sexual person by nature, and for me sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship. We all deserve better than to be having bad sex, so I highly recommend taking some time out to get familiar with yourself and what gets you going.
I hope you guys have enjoyed learning a little about what this year has taught me so far. I will of course be going more in depth in December with my annual wrap up style post so make sure you look out for that in 5 months time (!!!). I honestly can’t wait to see what the rest of this year has in store for me – I know a few things that I would like so I’m putting it out there into the universe and doing my best to manifest my desires before the end of 2019.
Has 2019 been a transformative year for you too? What life lessons have you learned so far? Let me know in the comments!