“New Year, New Me”. Year in, year out, it is the slogan thrown at us from all angles whether that be friends, family and colleagues jumping on the post-Christmas health kick, or screamed at us from billboards, magazines or TV commercials. January is renowned as the time of year we all want to embrace change and the media know this, bombarding us with targeted ads for weight loss, a renewed focus on the “perfect bikini body” (whatever that is), or simply making us feel guilty for any overindulgence over the festive period by trying to coerce us into a new gym membership.
Every year, come 1st January, I find myself making lists of things I aim to change about myself in the coming year. While some of them are constructive such as making more time for friends and family or wanting to travel more, in the past many of them have been vanity metrics too. I want to lose x amount of weight or slim down into y size again – I’ve been far too focussed on the aesthetics and not on the important things.
This then leads to disappointment and resentment when the end of the year rolls around and predictably I’ve only ticked off a handful of things on the list. Naturally life gets in the way – 12 months is a long time and a lot can happen in that time, so it’s only to be expected that things happen to derail you from your initial goals or delay them somewhat – therefore why do we all feel guilty if, come December time, we’re still the same person that was looking in the mirror at the start of the year?
December 2018 brought about a lot of reflective time for me. I spent many an evening thinking back over what was undeniably a tumultuous year and wondering what 2019 holds in store for me. I thought back over what I achieved last year and what I didn’t quite manage, and how I could use these as benchmarks for the year ahead to set realistic goals and while in this self-reflective state I realised that when it comes down to it, I don’t want to spend this year trying to change who I am. If I end 2019 exactly the same as I ended 2018 (surrounded by friends, family and love) then that will have been a successful year for me and that’s all that matters.
Sure I have goals I want to hit – its always good to have something to aim for at the end of the day otherwise what will keep you motivated? But my goals are centred around realistic, achievable business metrics and creating a more wholesome and happy life for myself. I want to spend more time with family and friends, give back the love and support they give to me, and improve my health by becoming fit and strong rather than wasting my time worrying about what I weigh or what size clothes I’m fitting in right now.
This obsession with trying to change ourselves every time the clock ticks midnight on the 31st December can only be damaging – rather than trying to change ourselves surely it’s time to start accepting ourselves and using that newfound love and self-acceptance as a solid foundation for building a happy life?
That’s what I’m going to be focussing on for 2019 anyway, and as always I’m excited to be sharing my journey with you all via this blog and my Youtube channel. Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss a thing, and let me know in the comments what you’re going to be aiming for in 2019 – let’s make this one the best one yet hey?